Jan 21 2017

Best Sex Positions To Improve Your Sex Life

Just about every person in the world likes sex. Hell, if most of us could just skip the whole work thing and spend all of our time in bed every day, we would.
But with a 24/7 sex schedule, variety becomes paramount. Fortunately, there are plenty of different configurations you and your partner can try out. To make them easier to imitate, and to jumpstart your imagination, we've also crafted illustrations of each and every sex position on this list and given you the skinny on just what you can expect from each. Whether you're into slow and steady, fast and furious, or great ways to play orally, you'll find something here to try tonight (and every night going forward).

1. Missionary Sex Positions


Ahhh, Missionary. Traditionally considered the "default sex position", Missionary offers lots of advantages to first-timers and people looking for sex that's more on the vanilla side. However, there are lots of slight variations on it that can amp things up in terms of the pleasure, intensity and kink factor – for both partners. Check out these Missionary-inspired positions:

1. Missionary

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The Missionary position (man on top, couple facing each other) is the most famous and classic of all sex positions. The eye contact, the mild male dominance and the angle of penetration make this a popular one, and odds are, the first time you had sex was in a Missionary position. A very comfortable position that allows for easy thrusting, and an easy pull-out if you’re a man, there’s plenty of benefits to it and it’ll work its way into basically any sexual encounter you find yourself in, at some point.

2. Coital Alignment Technique

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Another spin on Missionary, the Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.), aka the Frog or the Perfect Position, looks to sacrifice elevation and power for proper positioning. Start in regular Missionary, and then flatten your torso as much possible, while your partner should arch her legs and put her legs on your butt. What you're doing here is targeting the clitoris for more direct rubbing and friction. The pressure you put on her clitoris could help her get to orgasm quicker. You should also be staying nice and deep within her in this position, too, to ensure maximum. In other words, it's more for her pleasure than yours.

3. Legs On Shoulders

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A classic take on Missionary, this one can either be done with you lying down on top of her, or with her positioned at the edge of the bed and with you in standing (or more accurately leaning in) with her legs on your shoulders as you penetrate her. This position gives the man all of the control of penetration, but it will also allow for deeper penetration, so it’s a win-win. You may need to grasp her legs and pull in gently to prevent your thrusting from pushing her away from you.

4. The Pancake

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A more extreme variant of the Legs On Shoulders position, this one really puts you in the driver's seat. Start with your torso more or less vertical and her legs on your shoulders. Descend slowly until you're basically folding her in half. For more leverage, you can reach around her back with your arms and pull her tightly against you. This one is very intimate, but it also gives her very little mobility, so it's basically you who is 100% in charge of the thrusting. The pressure you're putting on her muscles can also create a tightness in her pelvis, leading to an increased tighter feel for you. You should make sure she's flexible enough to pull this one off – many women aren't – and keep in mind you'll probably be able to pull this off for just a few minutes.

5. Swivel And Grind

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If you’re working with a little bit less than the average man, the Swivel and Grind is your friend. Instead of the ol’ in-and-out pumping, which is actually better for you than it is for her, once you’re inside her, use your hip rotation to grind and twist inside of her, pressing your shaft as hard as you can against her clitoris. The friction and pressure will be what brings her to orgasm, no matter what your size. To get maximum closeness, Missionary with legs on shoulders works best. You may also want to consider propping up her hips on a pillow or wedge (you can find specially made ones) to create the perfect angle.

6. The Viennese Oyster

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Sex expert Tyomi Morgan says: The Viennese Oyster requires she place both of her ankles behind her head, fully exposing her vulva and folding her body into the shape of an oyster. He holds her ankles in place while she uses her free hands to prevent his body weight from crushing her contorted body. This is great for extra-deep penetration.

7. Spread Eagle

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This one's not for beginners, as it requires a little light bondage. But if you're exploring kinkier options with your partner, this is a great option that allows you to take a more dominant role while still offering both of you a lot of intimacy. With your partner on her back, have her spread her legs and tie her ankles and her wrists together. You then have total control for a very steamy, powerful romp.



2. Doggy-Style Sex Positions


Dogs, it turns out, are more than just our best friends. They've also figured out a pretty good way to get it on. Doggy-Style and other positions where you're doing your partner from behind offer you a lot of control, and while they're typically less intimate than Missionary or its variations, sometimes that's exactly what you (or your partner) are looking for. Doggy variations allow for all kinds of positioning possibilities, as each person can be standing, kneeling, or lying down; it can be good for role play where staring into each other's faces might ruin the illusion; and it typically means both of you have the option to stimulate her clitoris. What's not to love?

1. Doggy-Style

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Doggy-Style is one of the favoured sex positions of millions of people for a few reasons. It’s the classic female submissive position and really lets the man be in control, and there’s more than a few variations to it. In its simplest form, you kneel on the bed, with your partner on all fours. Enter her from behind, and hold onto her hips and/or torso. You can decide to go slow or hard. If you want to add some roughness, and your partner is into that, this position is solid for pulling on hair or spanking as well, to add to the general submissiveness of the position. If you have a free hand, a clitoral reach-around or playing with her breasts can add extra stimulation to the position.

2. Reach For The Sky

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Doggy-Style is normally done kneeling, but it doesn’t have to be. An easy transition from normal Doggy-Style, in this version you actually get up on your feet and stand up, and lean way over her. You’ll get somewhat of a less intense thrust than regular Doggy-Style, but in return you'll have a different sensation, particularly for her, and a pretty decent workout for your hamstring and ankles from it. The leaning forward actually lets you get a somewhat deeper feel, and the difficulty quotient will make you feel all the more accomplished for pulling it off.

3. Bedside Doggy-Style

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A lot of sexual positions have the woman on an elevated platform with the man on the ground – this one flips the script. Go to the edge of the bed and kneel. Have her standing straight up and back up to you slowly, and then bend over at 90 degrees. You then enter her from behind and thrust away. This one has a little bit less of the hands-on potential of traditional Doggy Style, but it’s an interesting take on a position that’s arguably more male-dominant. If you want to make things easier on her back, have her place her arms on a chair or desk for support.

4. Backdoor Planking

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Sex expert Tyomi Morgan says: This position not only accesses the G-spot and the A-spot to create squirting orgasms but it's also comfortable for the female partner after switching into several positions. Backdoor planking is a position where the female partner lies on her stomach with her legs positioned close together, and is penetrated from behind. This position requires little work on her behalf, but feels amazing because her legs are placed closely together which creates a tighter entry for him and increased sensation for her.

5. Doggy-Style Stairs

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Another set up that works for anal sex or vaginal sex, the Doggy Style sex on the stairs takes advantage of the natural incline of the steps to create new angles and support for a classic position. Again, carpeted steps or a towel to protect her knees are a good idea. Depending on your height, you can either be standing or kneeling for this one. The stairs mean she can keep herself more upright, and the fact that you’ll be on a lower step means you have a more natural, upright angle to enter her vagina than traditional Doggy Style on a flat surface. Just make sure you don’t fall.

6. Spooning

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Spooning is one of the “cuddliest” of the sex positions, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make it intense. You lie on your side, with your partner in front of you, facing away. Enter her from behind, and then both of you can control the pace and depth of thrusting. The position is comfortable, for longer sex sessions with a lot of sensual touching and kissing of the back of the neck. You can also get quite handsy and reach around to play with her nipples or even reach down and add extra stimulation to her clitoris from the front. 

7. Kneel Together

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This position is a great variation on regular Doggy Style. In this edition, you enter her from behind as you would normally with Doggy Style, only then both of you straighten your torsos straight up. This position means her hands are freer than they’d normally be during Doggy Style, which means she can more easily play with her clitoris or even reach down and grab your balls.

8. Hyper-Connected Doggy

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Sex expert and founder of Scott Brown says: It's a variant of the Doggy Style position we are all familiar with. The man stands on the floor at the edge of the bed, and the woman gets into typical Doggy Style position on the bed. After the man has entered her he pulls the woman up towards him so that she is now kneeling at the edge of the bed, instead of being an all fours. He supports her with one hand wrapped around her torso. This position is so great because it allows you to get that deep penetration so many love about Doggy Style but you are more connected with your partner because her whole body is up against you. Added benefits are that you can pull her hair, see her face, and also whisper nasty things into her ear, all at the same time, since you have one free arm. It’s intense, intimate and feels good!

9. Chicken Wing Doggy-Style

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This is a pretty straightforward Doggy variation. Start in the typical Doggy Style position and then lift her up by her thighs.

Adult film actor and director Derrick Pierce says: Make sure your arm/hand is underneath her leg for support. For additional support, bring your leg up and plant on your foot (with the same leg of hers that you are holding) and rest her leg on top of your knee.

10. The Superhero

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Perhaps the ultimate strength test sex position, the "Superman" sees you bend her over a desk or table, with her using it for support. Then, once you're inside her, lift her pelvis up slowly until her feet are actually off the ground, and you're holding on to her as you thrust in and out. The sheer physical intensity of this one means it's not for the faint-hearted, but can provide an adrenaline rush as you go closer and closer to your breaking point. Keep safety in mind and let her down gently as soon as your strength starts to wane.

11. The Lean Doggy

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Dating writer Jeremy Glass writes: How it looks depends on (a) your partner and (b) the thing she's leaning over. If you have a really understanding woman-friend who doesn’t mind being boned from behind while she rests her elbows on a wooden desk, all is well. Leaning your partner over, say, a table and taking her from behind requires work from her end (no pun intended) but allows the dude to go about sexy times while literally just standing there. Literally! How it feels depends on the surface. If you’re leaning your partner over a bathroom sink, it probably won’t be the best for her. However, if you’re leaning her over the bed and there happens to be a plate of pancakes and waffles on said bed... everyone’s happy.

12. Bent-Over Standing Doggy

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This standing twist on Doggy Style takes some serious flexibility and commitment, but if you're up for it (or down for it) it can be a fun addition to your roster of sex positions. This is also a great choice if you're trying to get it on in public without being caught – she can completely dip down behind a bush or parked car for cover.

13. Out-Of-Control Cowgirl

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Astroglide's resident sexologist Dr. Jess says: In this one, the man kneels and sits back on his heels, while the woman sits atop him, facing away, to maintain total control, since he can’t thrust with as much power while on his knees.

14. The Cowboy

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Before we get to the Woman On Top positions (aka different variations of the Cowgirl) let's check out the Cowboy. Finally, your chance to ride. This is a variant on the Backdoor Planking position that sees you putting your thighs outside of your partner's thighs instead of inside them. Your partner should push her butt up in the air a little bit to help give you a better angle – a pillow can help here.


3. Woman On Top Sex Positions

While the Missionary- and Doggy-inspired positions typically mean the man is in control of the action, positions that feature the woman on top allow your partner a lot more control over the speed, intensity and angle of penetration. They do offer the possibility of both of you facing each other, or away from each other; and either partner can take control of the thrusting, making these positions a versatile option that offers pleasure for all.

1. Cowgirl

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Probably one of the first positions you learned, there's more than a few reasons why the Cowgirl is arguably the world's favoured sex position. You get to lie back and get a simply wonderful view of your partner moving up and down; she gets excellent clitoral stimulation and a lot of control of depth and penetration. Penetration-wise, this is arguably the quickest way for a woman to achieve orgasm, although quite a bit more difficult for you. Use your free hands to massage her breasts, and if you want to add an element of dominance despite your position on the bottom, you can place your fingers gently around her neck.


2. Reverse Cowgirl

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A classic, the reverse Cowgirl puts the man on the bottom and has the woman straddling him facing away. She can control the angle of penetration here, and the man gets a great view of her from behind. If you want to change things up, arch your knees up to give her something to easily push off of. If you want to make eye contact and get a view of her from the front, a mirror could also be your friend here.

3. Crouching Reverse Cowgirl

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The Reverse Cowgirl is usually done in something of a vertical T-position,with the man lying flat on his back and the woman bouncing up and down mostly upright. You can add a variation to this by having her lean forward, so that her head is actually almost over top of your feet. By planting her arms onto the ground/bed or even grabbing your shins, she can really get a lot of leverage to move herself back and forth. This one really leaves her in control and lets you sit back and chill out.

4. Woman Lying On Top

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This position requires a lot of exertion on the woman’s part but could be very intense; it can also work as an anal sex position, and give her a lot of control in that scenario. It’s pretty self explanatory; you lie flat on your back and hold her by the hips or butt, while she partly props herself up using her elbows and legs, arching her back and placing her shoulders and shoulder blades on your chest. Then she lowers her hips up and down, to control how deeply you move in and out of her. To prevent her from getting tired, help her by supporting her butt and taking off some of the weight.

5. The Backseat Special

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The backseat is a favourite sex spot because of it being the most convenient spot to have sex when you're young and still living at home. So if you and your lover are driving down the highway and you're bored as sin, and get understandably horny, you can't well have a roll on the interstate. The backseat is a cramped, semi-public locale for sex, which can add to the thrill of it. For this, you're probably better off sticking to the standard Cowgirl position, although Missionary might also be an option.

6. The Waterfall

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The Waterfall is one of the strangest-looking sex positions out there, but once you try it you’ll understand why it’s worth it.


Sex expert Dr. Emily Morse says: The Waterfall is a variation on the popular Cowgirl position, but packs a super-sized climactic punch. Start by laying on the couch or bed with your head near the edge and your partner on top of you, but instead of riding you from her knees, she’ll need to lean back and shift her weight to her feet. Once she’s got the stance down, inch toward the edge of the bed or couch, letting your head and shoulders slide off onto the ground while your hips remain elevated. If you’re on a couch, drape your legs over the back of the seat or simply let your knees fall open. From here, your partner has complete control over the speed, depth and intensity of her gyrations, not to mention a free hand to use as she wishes – clitoral stimulation, anyone? There are a couple of ways to execute this pose: You can either use it as a bridge while building to orgasm, or moving into it right before the big finale. Either way, this position will cause the blood to rush to your head (and your other head) for an explosive climax. (Now you’ll understand why it’s called the Waterfall.)

7. Zen Sex

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Some people want lustful, intense, passionate sex... and some people want more relaxed sex. If you're in the mood for something a little more zen, try this position. In order to pull it off, your partner should put her legs into a full lotus position and lean forward on her hands. Or, she can move her hips up and down. Alternately, you can help by lifting her hips from behind to achieve an up and down motion.


4. Oral Sex Positions


Not all sex has to be exclusively genitals-on-genitals. Oral sex is always a great pleasure option, whether you're giving or receiving – or both at once. Not to mention that many women report enjoying oral sex more than penetrative sex. So what are your options when it comes to blowjobs, cunnilingus and 69ing? Let's check it out.

1. Lying For Him

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This is probably the least work you'll ever have to do to achieve orgasm, as you just lie back and let your partner do the work. This allows her to control everything that's going on, too, meaning she has full say over the speed, the angle, the duration and more, making this a great option for both of you if you like her style.

2. Lying For Her

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One good turn deserves another – this position is the gender-swapped version of the above one and similarly allows her to relax and you to really get to work. It's also perfect for amping things up a bit by adding some fingering to the mix to really taking her pleasure to the next level.

3. Standing For Him

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This has been a staple of porn scripts for a long, long time. While it might be a little less relaxing position to receive a blowjob, it's a great option if there isn't a bed available and/or if you want to feel more dominant or engage in role play while receiving oral pleasure. It also means you can experiment (with your partner's express consent!) with thrusting a little rather than just being a passive recipient.

4. Standing For Her

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This is a bit trickier than the male equivalent, but it's a solid option if there isn't a bed available – although trickier to pull off in more public situations if your partner's wearing trousers or shorts. Just kneel at her feet, have her spread her legs a bit and go for it.

5. Face-Sitting For Him

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Face-sitting can be very hot because it adds an extra element of dominance and submissiveness to your oral play. Have your partner lie on her back; she can prop up her head either using a pillow or leaning her shoulders against the wall. Then, thrust into her mouth. It’s a good idea to go gently here because you could make this uncomfortable otherwise. Talk to her beforehand to establish some boundaries and maybe a signal for whether you should stop; then during the act, work with her body language and cues to figure out your rhythm and how deep you can go.

6. Face-Sitting For Her

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For female on male, this position works even better. The mechanics are pretty simple: you lie flat on your back, and she straddles your face with her thighs, lowering her crotch onto your head. You can also use a pillow to take some of the pressure off your neck. Women love this position, but a lot of guys do too, A) because it’s a pretty comfortable way to eat her out and B) there’s a bit of female dominance to the position. She can also add a bit more pressure if you want to kick it up a notch, in which case you’ll want to work out a signal in case you find yourself suffocating.

7. The 69

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The classic mutual pleasure oral position, 69-ing is a thrill for the head-to-toe positioning. It also works for any combination of two sex partners. If you're lying one on top of the other, typically woman on top is easier, with each of your pleasuring the other orally. An intense position, the 69 also tests your concentration and your ability to pleasure your partner while she’s doing the same for you. Work on this one and play with various configurations so you’re most comfortable.

8. Sideways 69ing

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Another fun option for the 69 is to simply turn it on its side. While sideways 69ing requires a bit more effort than the upright version, it's a great option if lying on top of each other is tricky for whatever reason, and offers a fun new spin – literally – on a classic oral sex position.

9. The Upside-Down 69

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Not satisfied with simply turning the 69 sideways? Amp it up another level with the Upside-Down 69. This variations, which is not for beginners, also requires some specific hardware, as you'll need a chin-up bar or some sort of equivalent bar for the top person to hang from. Don't try this without first ascertaining that it can hold your weight (or your partner's) though. You can also alternate which one of you is upside down if you're really enjoying yourselves.

10. Sideways Oral

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Recline on your side, and have your partner position herself so that her head is in line with your crotch. She should also be on her side, and can wrap her arms around your legs for balance and leverage. From there, it’s up to you; you can totally sit back and let her do all the work, or provide the thrusting motion yourself. This is an incredibly comfortable and relaxed position for both of you. Your partner may need to tuck her legs in to prevent her legs from hanging over the bed (if that’s where you’re at) or even placing a chair next to the bed if you’re a taller couple so that her legs aren’t hanging into the air.

11. Elevated Cunnilingus

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A table, a windowsill, a countertop, whatever the case, having your partner up above means that you can go down on her… without going down too much. Have her bring her legs right up to the edge of whatever surface she’s on, and then either kneel or stand (depending on her and your height) and give it your all. This is another one that is great for getting it on in public, because you don’t need a nice cushy surface to lie down on.


12. The Seated Blowjob

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Is there anything better than getting a blowjob while seated? Don't answer that; it's a rhetorical question, and besides, the answer is no. Perhaps the most famous version of this blowjob position is getting one in a car, known as "road head". That's a sideways angle, but of course you can always do this in the privacy of your home instead of in a motor vehicle. In that case, your partner would probably approach from the front, with you seated on a chair of your choice and her kneeling in front of it.


13. Doggy-Style Oral

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Unlike most other oral sex positions, this Doggy Style one is (crazy bending ability aside) pretty much just for performing on women. Have her get down on all fours, either propping herself up on her knees and hands or knees and elbows. You then either get down on all fours and pleasure her orally from behind, or have her on all fours next to the edge of the bed so that you can either stand or kneel on the ground to make it easier on your back. This position is also great for analingus, if you so desire.


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