It's up for debate if blow jobs are fun for everyone, but chances are, if you're head over heels for your partner, you'll want to satisfy him. Perhaps to do this you've tried to emulate what you've seen in porn: lots of deep throating. But maybe you don't have the greatest gag reflex on the planet. That's okay! The good people of Reddit have churned out some advice as to how to give great blowjobs without deep throating. As user appmanga succinctly put it, "women don't have to choke themselves to give a good BJ, and they shouldn't think they should." (Women shouldn't have to do anything sex-related, BTW.)
Here are some highlights. (Answers have been edited for spelling and punctuation.)
1. Pay attention to the sensitive parts of the penis.
"Enthusiasm, good rhythm, handwork on the shaft (for most guys, some don't like it), hitting the sensitive parts like the corona and the frenulum/underside with the tongue," userra_account says. "Deep throating is a bit overrated in my opinion — it's neat and enjoyable, but it's not what makes me come."
2. Use pressure.
"Learn to grip a d*ck with enough pressure (many women hold d*cks like they will hurt them)," user Felonessthroaway2 says.
3. Get really into it.
"Be really into it and get playful. Moan, use your hands to grip his thighs and butt in an 'I can't get enough of you' kind of way. Do it with a smile, make satisfied sounds, ask him how he likes his balls played with," user Likewhaat says. "Kiss his groin passionately, lick him all over. Talk dirty to him in between mouthfuls, stuff like 'you taste so good!' Show enthusiasm and display that you're really enjoying yourself down there. There's so much more to head than shaft in your mouth."
4. Use your hands.
User sparkpuppy says "you can use your hands as an extension of your mouth, churning the d*ck (rotating your hands slightly sideways, like you were cleaning a metal bar) every time your head goes down."
5. Try some variation with your tongue.
"When the d*ck is in your mouth, use your tongue to lick around it," sparkpuppy adds. "Gently suck the glans like you were sucking a lollipop, apply the same suction to his balls (you can take his d*ck around the base in your hand and press it a little bit so he will stay hard while you're sucking his balls). With the d*ck in your hand, you can also tap its tip gently against your tongue (be careful with your teeth, stick your tongue out when doing it)."
6. Go from the bottom to top.
"Start by licking from the bottom of the shaft upward. Even if you're not putting it all in your mouth, you want it to feel wet with saliva everywhere," user kaylie- kitten says. "Put about half in your mouth and use a hand on the rest. The most sensitive area is usually the head, but also gauge reactions from stimulating the underside of his penis about 3/4 of an inch from the bottom of the head. Some guys love this."
7 up the position.
"Some guys are only used to receiving [blow jobs] laying down or in a specific position. Try standing up, sitting, one good one is to lightly push him against a wall, undo his belt and pants, and blow him like that," kaylie- kitten also says. "Honestly, just that variety can go a long way."
8. Use saliva...or coconut oil, should you be parched.
"Saliva. Lots of saliva," user Jitzgrrl says. "I know you don't want to deep throat, and you shouldn't...But if you can get his c*ck deep enough in your mouth that you start producing that slippery stringy saliva from the back of your mouth/throat, that's the good stuff! You want that over his entire c*ck, running down his balls. Coconut oil will do in a pinch, but goopy saliva is the bomb."
9. Don't forget the balls!
"Gently cup his balls, lightly take the weight in your hand, and tease your fingers around; most guys like that tons, a few will ask you to grab harder (and a few might ask you to desist entirely)," Jitzgrrl also says. (As user Satherton added, "DON'T FORGET THE BALLS NEED LOVE TOO!"
10. Figure out what rhythm he likes.
"For rhythm, you've got four major variables: your hand/stroke pattern, your tongue movement, how much suction to apply and when, and the angle of your head vs his d*ck,"Jitzgrrl added.
11. Use suction.
"Sure it feels nice to wrap a mouth round it and bob up and down, some fancy tongue work can be fun and feels great, but the meat and potatoes of the job, the f*cking bread and butter of a blowjob is the SUCTION," user TheBestWifesHusband says.
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